I am not making the connection between your sexless marriage and the man in your office who you refer to as 'goober'.
Perhaps the real reason Mr. Goober is getting attention from the women in the office, is that he is a nice man.
You blame the 'goober' for the lack of attention you are receiving from the other women in your office.
Recently a goober IT guy just got promoted and all the women go crazy over him.
I used to feel attraction from these women until this new goober.
Why do all the women love this goober so much?